It happens to men too…


Many people think that sexual abuse is something that just women have to deal with, but the truth is, 1 in 6 men will be victims of sexual abuse.
If you are a male survivor, please know, you do not need to feel alone! There are MANY wonderful organizations out there to help you become a survivor and THRIVER! is an amazing non-profit group with a great website full of resources. Here is what they have to say about the myth that men cant be victimized…

“This myth, instilled through masculine gender socialization and sometimes referred to as the “macho image,” declares that males, even young boys, are not supposed to be victims or even vulnerable. We learn very early that males should be able to protect themselves. In truth, boys are children – weaker and more vulnerable than their perpetrators – who cannot really fight back. Why? The perpetrator has greater size, strength, and knowledge. This power is exercised from a position of authority, using resources such as money or other bribes, or outright threats – whatever advantage can be taken to use a child for sexual purposes.”

I encourage you to add messages in the comment box if you are a survivor who would like to speak out, or if you have any questions on where to go for help. THis is a community, and you are never alone. ❤



11 thoughts on “It happens to men too…

  1. Hello Sarah, Unfortunately, quite often, the abused men help to perpetuate the myth that men can’t be victimized. We do this out of fear. We do it because we believe the myth and we believe ourselves to be the only ones. I was 11 when I was abused. It took me over 30 years to speak. I think it’s getting better today, though. I see men who are younger and younger reaching out for help. I don’t know the statistics, but I ‘see’ men mostly first reaching for help in their mid forties. Lately, because of social media I believe, this trend has been changing. I’m relieved when I see young men in attendance at the Male Survivor Weekend of Recovery retreats. It means they are taking back their lives…and they are doing it before too much of it is gone and lost to time. I’ve been to 2 Weekends of Recovery. I can attest to the fact that they change (save) lives. I’m living proof. Thanks so much for this post…the more people who come into contact with the facts, the more likely things are to change. And posts like this might make a victim stop and think, ‘I’m NOT the only one. Maybe I can get help.’ Every word we speak against abuse–every fact we put out into the universe about its truths and myths–has the possibility of being a kernel of salvation for someone who is currently suffering silently. Keep doing what you’re doing.

  2. Thanks so much Sarah for your support and for helping boys and men know that they are not alone. If you’re a survivor of sexual abuse (or any form of abuse for that matter) know that:
    1. You are not alone
    2. It was not your fault
    3. It is possible to heal
    4. It is never too late.
    There is a community of healing and support available to you at

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