“The Bro Code”- perhaps the most important doc men can see… and future parents of boys, and everyone who has ever encountered or will encounter a male… basically, see this!


Although we’ve been told that today’s men and women are more equal than ever, a closer look at the image of the modern “ideal male” that the media and society has created shows that things are FAR from equal. This macho, sexist, and womanizing persona that has become the pinnacle of manliness is not only terrible for our men, it’s down-right dangerous for our women, and his documentary shows just HOW true that is! Here is the summary of the doc from the host website to explain in more detail…

Distributed by the Media Education Foundation
Produced by Thomas Keith

“Filmmaker Thomas Keith takes aim at the forces in male culture that condition boys and men to dehumanize and disrespect women. Keith breaks down a range of contemporary media forms, zeroing in on movies and music videos that glamorize womanizing, pornography that trades in the brutalization of women, comedians who make fun of sexual assault, and a groundswell of men’s magazines and cable TV shows that revel in old-school myths of American manhood. Even as epidemic levels of men’s violence against women persist in the real world, the message Keith uncovers in virtually every corner of our entertainment culture is clear: It’s not only normal — but cool — for boys and men to control and humiliate women. Arguing that there’s nothing normal, natural, or inevitable about this mentality, The Bro Code challenges young people, young men and women alike, to step up and fight back against the idea that being a real man means being sexist.”

Featuring interviews with Michael Kimmel, Robert Jensen, Shira Tarrant, J.W. Wiley, Douglas Rushkoff, Eric Anderson, and Neal King.

After watching this video, I was reminded that sexual assault is not just a female problem (duh!) but MALES are the ones that are (99% of the time) committing these acts of violence against women! Its time we re-teach our boys what it REALLY means to be a MAN , to respect women, see them as equals, honor them, want the same things for them that they want for themselves: happiness, safety, freedom, independence… etc.. and change the macho male image that society has created for us.
I HIGHLY encourage you all to watch this documentary in its entirety… then pass the message along!
Thrive on Thrivers!!




A Powerful Message to Girls Everywhere Through Some Great Art!


Hello thrivers!

Found this great art by artist Carol Rosetti while i was browsing the web tonight and just had to share! its so important that we erase (and change!) many of the messages that the media and society preach about women. Math IS for girls! You CAN date whomever you choose! Its OK to not care about the latest fashion trends! If you don’t want to shave your legs (or anywhere else!) THATS GREAT! rock that stubble!! WHO cares!! and Blue can totally be a girl color, and pink, a boy color! Don’t ever let people tell you that you’re anything other than amazing, capable, and free to live the life you want! NOW GET OUT THERE AND PROOVE IT! :))  

check out more of Carol’s awesome and inspiring art on her tumbler: http://carolrossettidesign.tumblr.com/

Think you’re alone? maybe this will help…


Isn’t it just CRAZY that we live in a time where its just fine to come out and say that we were victims of a robbery or some crime like that, But even when we know that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men are victims of sexual abuse, NO ONE TALKS ABOUT IT!?!? If you ask me, that’s a problem… the truth is, you’re not alone.. don’t believe me? check out this list of famous people who have also shattered the silence of their own sexual abuse. (hmm when do you think they’re gonna add Sarah from the Real World to the list, eh? haha) SPEAK OUT! BREAK THE SILENCE! TAKE BACK YOUR POWER!  I mean really…Henry Rollins, Mr. Badass-Motha’-You-Know-What himself is on the list! These people don’t let their abuse define them, and neither should you!

  • Alexander Pushkin (poet) abuse, info courtesy of AEST
  • Alice Walker (author/activist) abuse
  • Andrea Dworkin (author/activist) rape
  • Angela Rose (activist) sexual assault (visit Angela’s site here )
  • Angela Shelton (actress/model/director/actvist) incest
  • Angie Dickenson (actress, etc) emotional abuse
  • Anne Heche (actress) incest
  • Anne Sexton (poet) child sexual abuse, info courteousy of AEST
  • Antwone Fisher (author) emotional abuse/child sexual abuse
  • Axl Rose (musician) child sexual abuse (according to IMDB.com)
  • Baby Lyssa Chapman (famous bounty hunter/daughter of Dog) statutory rape
  • Beethoven (composer) unspecified child abuse
  • Beth Chapman (famous bail bondswoman/wife of Dog) domestic violence
  • Bill Clinton (former U.S. President) secondary domestic violence
  • Billie Holliday (singer) childhood rape
  • Billy Connoly (comedian) incest
  • Brett Butler (actress) domestic violence
  • Carlos Santana (musician) child sexual abuse
  • Carrie Otis (model) rape
  • Chester Bennington (musician) child sexual abuse
  • Christina Aguilera (singer) unspecified child abuse/secondary domestic violence
  • Christina Applegate (actress) dating violence
  • Christina Crawford (author) emotional abuse
  • Cindy Williams (actress) emotional abuse
  • Clara Bow (actress) incest
  • Connie Francis (singer) rape
  • Dave Mustaine (musician) child physical abuse/secondary domestic violence
  • Dave Pelzer (author) multiple forms of abuse
  • Derek Luke (actor) child sexual abuse
  • Desi Arnaz, Jr. (actor) emotional abuse
  • Dog the Bounty Hunter (famous bounty hunter/reality TV stars) child physical abuse
  • Dorie VanStone (author) multiple forms of abuse
  • Drew Barrymore (actress) unspecified child abuse
  • Eleanor Roosevelt (former First Lady) unspecified child abuse
  • Elizabeth I (Queen of England) teenage sexual assault, info courteousy of AEST
  • Elizabeth Barrett Browning (poet) abuse, info courteousy of AEST
  • Elizabeth Loftus (psychologist) child sexual abuse
  • Ella Fitzgerald (singer) abuse
  • Emme (model) emotional abuse
  • Erin Gray (actress) unspecified child abuse
  • Eve Ensler (playwright/actress) incest
  • Fantasia (singer) teenage rape
  • Farrah Faucett (actress) domestic violence
  • Fiona Apple (musician) childhood rape
  • Florence Holway (artist/activist) rape
  • Fran Drescher (actress) rape
  • Gabrielle Union (actress) rape
  • Gavin DeBecker (violent crime expert) psychological abuse
  • George Orwell (author) unspecified child abuse
  • Greg Luganis (athlete) abuse
  • Halle Berry (actress, model) domestic violence
  • Henry Miller (writer) abuse, info courtesy of AEST
  • Henry Rollins (musician) child sexual abuse
  • Janice Dickenson (model) child physical & emotional abuse
  • Janice Mirikitani (poet) incest, Janice’s story is featured on a DVD sold at RAINN’s site
  • Johannes Brahms (composer) child sexual abuse, info courteousy of AEST
  • Jonathan Davis (musician) child sexual abuse
  • Joyce Meyer (evangelist, author) child physical abuse & incest
  • Kirk Hammett (musician) child physical & sexual abuse
  • Laveraneus Coles (athlete) child sexual abuse
  • Leslie Triber (author/poet) abuse
  • Lorena Bobbit – marital rape
  • Lynn C. Tolson (author) incest/domestic violence/sexual assault
  • Marie Waldrep (poet/activist) incest/domestic violence
  • Marilyn Manson (musician) child sexual abuse
  • Marilyn Monroe (actress) child physical & sexual abuse/childhood attempted rape (according to IMDB.com)/domestic violence
  • Marilyn VanDerber Atler (former Miss America) incest
  • Mary J. Blige (singer) emotional abuse/childhood rape/secondary domestic violence
  • Mary Wollestonecraft (author) child physical abuse
  • Mata Hari (famous spy) domestic violence
  • Maya Angelou (author, poet) childhood rape
  • Maynard James Keenan (musician) child sexual abuse
  • Meat Loaf (musician) peer abuse/parental physical abuse (?)
  • Mike Patton (musician) neglect/child sexual abuse
  • Missy Elliot (rapper, producer) child sexual abuse/secondary domestic violence
  • Nicole Brown Simpson – domestic violence (very likely murdered by OJ)
  • Oprah Winfrey (talk show host) child sexual abuse
  • Ozzy Osbourne (musician) emotional abuse
  • Pamela Anderson (actress) rape/domestic violence
  • Patricia Weaver Francisco (author) rape
  • Patsy Cline (singer) domestic violence
  • Patty Duke (actress, etc.) multiple forms of abuse, info courtesy of AEST
  • Paula White (evangelist, author) child sexual abuse
  • Queen Latifah (rapper/actress/model) child sexual abuse
  • Rain Pryor (actress) child physical abuse/teenage sexual abuse
  • Richard Nixon (former U.S. President) unspecified child abuse
  • Rita Hayworth (actress) incest
  • Robert Blake (actor) multiple forms of abuse, info courtesy of AEST
  • Rosanne Barr (actress/activist) child sexual abuse
  • Rose McGowan (actress) religious related (SRA?) abuse
  • Rosie Perez (actress) child sexual abuse
  • Rudyard Kipling (author) unspecified child abuse
  • Sandra Dee (actress) incest
  • Sinead O’Connor (musician) multiple forms of abuse, info courteousy of AEST
  • Stasi Eldredge (author) rape
  • Suzanne Somers (actress) emotional abuse
  • Teri Hatcher (actress) incest
  • Tina Turner (singer) domestic violence
  • Tom Arnold (actor, etc) abuse, info courtesy of AEST
  • Toni Childs (musician) abuse, info courteousy of AEST
  • Tori Amos (musician) rape
  • Virginia Woolf (author) incest
  • Viva (actress) child sexual abuse

It happens to men too…


Many people think that sexual abuse is something that just women have to deal with, but the truth is, 1 in 6 men will be victims of sexual abuse.
If you are a male survivor, please know, you do not need to feel alone! There are MANY wonderful organizations out there to help you become a survivor and THRIVER! MaleSurvivor.org is an amazing non-profit group with a great website full of resources. Here is what they have to say about the myth that men cant be victimized…

“This myth, instilled through masculine gender socialization and sometimes referred to as the “macho image,” declares that males, even young boys, are not supposed to be victims or even vulnerable. We learn very early that males should be able to protect themselves. In truth, boys are children – weaker and more vulnerable than their perpetrators – who cannot really fight back. Why? The perpetrator has greater size, strength, and knowledge. This power is exercised from a position of authority, using resources such as money or other bribes, or outright threats – whatever advantage can be taken to use a child for sexual purposes.”

I encourage you to add messages in the comment box if you are a survivor who would like to speak out, or if you have any questions on where to go for help. THis is a community, and you are never alone. ❤